1. Bury your past!
This is the key to a good and healthy relationship. No matter how good or bad your past was, flush it off before entering this new phase of life and never let it come between you two otherwise all will be ruined. Even though there’s a good companionship between you and your husband and you don’t mind sharing even the worst things, talking about past even in casual conversation will spoil your relation, believe me! Even more importantly, don’t make a comparison or else you will never have a loving relationship. Remember that this special night is about just you and him!
2. Don’t try to make it perfect! It just needs to be special!
We all plan a lot for the big day of wedding and so is the case with the first night. However, here you don’t need to plan much and just make yourself go with the flow. There’s no mantra to make the wedding night perfect but there are a lot of ways to make it special! Get as much intimate as possible and don’t hesitate from being experimental. Express your love instead of thinking that he would get it himself. Remember that he might also be nervous and thousands of nights will be there now.
3. Accept that it will be little awkward for both of you!
Regardless of how much you both know each other before marriage, your first night is going to be little awkward and that’s completely normal. You may feel uncomfortable while he undresses you or his first touch might tickle you from within, that heavy lehenga might become unmanageable or your lingerie may snap or things might be unpredictable. Whatever, just take a deep breath and relax! It’s his first night too and things are very much new for him as well!
4. Your outfit should be sexy yet comfy!
If you are not comfortable, you can’t enjoy it! So make sure that the lingerie you select for the special night fits you properly and you feel confident in it.
5. Don’t expect a flawless wedding night & keep expectations low!
As we mentioned above that things will definitely be awkward and you can’t make it perfect, it would be a wise idea to set your expectations low. Obviously, it will be the most memorable night of your life but many other nights will come which may be better and more perfect than this, so just focus on making it beautiful and unforgettable!
6. First night is not about sex at all!
It’s the beginning of a journey which you two start together and there’s a long way to go! Wedding night is the best time when you can come closer and know each other. It’s not just about physical intimacy but being the soulmates so if you didn’t have a good sex on the first night, it’s not the end of your married life!
7. Sex might hurt! Mentally prepare yourself for little pain!
If you are a virgin, you might bleed and if you have never done it before, it will certainly hurt. Even if you have done it in the past, it might be different and little painful with a new person so mentally prepare yourself for it. If it’s too painful, take a deep breath and little rest. Give it a try the next night or nights coming here on.
8. You will learn slowly! Don’t underestimate yourself if you can’t do it well in the first time!
Many girls feel that they have been doing it all wrong and hence, can’t enjoy or cherish the moment in the hope to make it perfect, as they watched in movies but this is real life and things don’t always go as you plan! You might be tired due to hectic rituals and may simply want some rest. Don’t unnecessarily push yourself; it’s just the beginning!
9. You can’t know everything!
Regardless of how much you read about the wedding night or whatever you have watched in films or adult movies, this all is not enough and accept that you can’t know everything about it instantly. You will learn along the way and give yourself ample time; after all, you both have thousands of nights here on!
10. It’s a good idea to clear doubts with mentor!
Every girl has a mentor who teaches her what to do and what not to do, be it her mother, elder sister or any woman who is married. Brace yourself with all the wisdom and don’t hesitate in clearing doubts or asking for some tips! This will help a lot!
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