I mean there is a world of a difference between your girl giving you gyaan about something's she knows best and making you feel absolutely inadequate about making your own life decisions. There is a thin line between the two. Some girls don't intend to control their better halves and some are just controlling by nature.
It's unhealthy and toxic to have someone constantly control your life and the decisions you make. So if you do realise this pattern with your girlfriend,either have a word with her about it or maybe move on before it takes a significant toll on you!
Here are 5 prominent behaviours that tell you, your girlfriend rules the roost and you need to break her away from that habit!
You Shudder To Utter the Words “Boys Night” Out Loud
If she has an issue with you hanging with the boys once a while then she's in control mate! She will probably give you grief about the fact that you drink too much. Or be yourself around the boys too much or just spend too much time away from her and she barely gets more time with you. Whatever it is, make her understand that you need a boys night once a while to unwind (just like she needs to spend some time with her girls) and if she can't understand that, then it's time to bid her adieu.
She's Always Asking You About Your Whereabouts
She's constantly questioning you about your whereabouts, even though she knows where you are. If you get 10 calls from her, while you're at work it's evident she's calling just to keep a check! Even when you have plans that don't involve her she will constantly check on you (and not just to make sure if you're alright!). If you're facing a similar situation either don't entertain her calls during work or send her your GPS coordinates every half hour (just kidding!). Break up, I think!
She Decides Everything For You. Like Everything!
If you feel all your life decisions are in someone else's hand, you're being controlled and how! From deciding what to wear to figuring out a date and time you meet your mother, she will make all the decisions for you. You will soon see yourself asking her for permission before making any concrete plans with your friends or family. Is that healthy you ask? Hell no! Make your own decisions!
Forget Talking, You Can't Even Look At Another Girl
I am sure by now you've already said goodbye to a major chunk of the girls you're friends with? Have you asked yourself why? That's because your girl is going to give you hell for talking to another woman. It's not insecurity as much as it's her nature to control things. So if she's controling your interactions, it's going to get mighty unhealthy from there. Are you ready for that?
You Can't Be Yourself
A woman who controls will always want the best version of you for herself. Let me put this aptly- a woman who controls would always want you to be what she wants you to be. So if you're behaving like someone you're not, that's because you're a little too afraid to show her your real self because she might not like the real you! A simple way to keep a check on this is to ask your friends if they see your behaviour change in front of her remarkably, and if yes, then she has you in her grip, my friend! Friends are the best judge since they know the real you. If that's the case, you need to run, pronto!
These are the 5 main traits of a controlling girlfriend and if your girl is showing even one out of these 5 then you can definitely do a lot better! You definitely can't live by someone else's rules forever!
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